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| Bob Grant, Licensed Professional Counselor |
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Preview of by Bob Grant, L.P.C. - "The Relationship Doctor"
"How to Get Your Man Back
-- and Keep Him Devoted to You For Good"
People often ask me, "Where did
you get the idea to write about how women can get back together with a man?"
I must admit, the idea came to me from women who bought my first book,
The Woman Men Adore and Never Want to
Leave. Many of them took me up on my
offer of a Free 15-minute coaching session and one of the most frequent
complaints or concerns I heard from these women was in regard to them being
in a relationship with someone––be it for three weeks all the way up to six
months––where it seemingly was going well and then by most women’s accounts,
the guy just seemed to suddenly lose interest. Most of these women were
befuddled as to why. It got to the point where I
started tracking the percentage of calls that actually ended up being
related to this very topic, and it ended up around 90%. I realized that
there was actually a phenomenon––a pattern––going on with so many women in
relationships and they seemed to have the same questions: What happened? They seemed totally dumbfounded
that someone who seemingly was interested in them, most of the time even
passionately, could simply lose all interest and lose all desire in a
relationship. So rather than just continuing to talk to these women
one-on-one, this book is an effort to reach the women that I am not going to
be able to talk to on the phone, those that aren’t going to be able to come
into my office, and to give some insights as to how this pattern happens and
what contributions a woman makes in the breakup and what remedies or
techniques they can use to help bring a man back. Now before I get into specifics,
there has to be one starting point that you, the reader, must acknowledge,
and that is that it is possible that no matter how perfect the techniques
you use, how thoroughly you understand them, that a particular man may not
return to you simply because of his own fears or his own insecurities or he
has been hurt too much by you or by someone else. In other words, we can’t
totally control the outcome, because the only way you could get any man back
every time would be if you, the reader, would be willing to do ANYTHING to
get a man back, even demeaning and degrading things which are beneath you. She paused for a second as she
thought about what I had just said and responded, “You mean I would be a
prostitute.” To which I replied, “Yes, but you would get him back.” Now most
men would agree to a relationship on those terms. But, of course, that isn’t
what a woman wants when they say “having him back”. So there are going to be
some parameters that you have to put on it. I don’t think that when women
say they want a man back, what they really want is him back under any
circumstances. And because there are going to be unpredictable
circumstances, the man may not come back. Now I don’t say this to be
discouraging. I don’t in any way mean to imply that the odds are almost
impossible to get a man back. That’s not what I mean at all. It’s just that
trying to win a man back takes time and effort and there isn’t going to be
one phrase or one particular thing that you can do. What you are about to read has
been used to rekindle relationships for centuries and when properly
implemented it is most difficult for a man to resist. This is a man’s heart
we’re talking about, the core of his being, and if he has left you, there is
usually a lot going on inside of his heart that he might not even be aware
of, that he’s trying to avoid. It is such a powerful thing to turn a man’s
heart that in most cases his heart has to warm up, he has to lower his
guard, his fear and his adrenaline have to die down before he can begin to
warm up to the process of reconciling with a former girlfriend or a
separated spouse. We cannot flood a man’s heart
with emotion to win him back like you can a woman’s. You can’t give him
gifts…you can’t shower him with sweetness and love…that doesn’t work with
men. Men do not flow as well in the emotional realm as women do. Men run from emotions,
especially emotions that are too intense. Creating more emotions is like
putting gasoline on a fire. We are trying to get the fire inside of him to
go down. If the fire represents his fears, we are trying to be able to calm
that down, slow it down just so that he will let us get closer. You know, I offer another
example of how this works to women. When a small child is upset, you comfort
and you console them, but there are times when they are upset, when the more
you comfort and console them, the more upset they get. Sometimes with a
child, what they need is for the adult to say, “You’re okay. No, calm down,
nothing is going to hurt you,” and to be a little firm while them learn how
to contain those feelings. Most men have the emotional
aptitude of a child. I don’t mean this as a put down, but they are just not
wired for a flood of feelings like women are. So now that you have accepted
the fact, hopefully, that this is going to take a while, if we are going to
turn the man’s heart that you want back towards you, now we can begin to
talk and lay some groundwork as to how we are going to do it. Did you like what you have read
so far? Would you like to know how to
get him back? In addition you will also learn: -How to know exactly what type
of man is good for you. -The most common causes of a
breakup. -What women frequently do that
ruins any chance of getting him back. -What you can do even if he
hasn’t made contact with you. -What causes a man to want to
get back with you. Remember, with your purchase you
also get a Free 15-minute coaching session with Mr. Grant where he will
discuss your specific situation to help insure your success! To go to my web page to order
“How Do I Get Him Back,” simply click
here Who Am I --
and Why Should You Believe Me? Books by Bob Grant: (click
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Bob
Grant talks about his book